Set New Years Resolutions That Last!

Emilia D'aversa

Happy 2020! I hope 2019 feels complete and that you’re ready to take on the new year with what you want to create in your life.

It’s a great time to set intentions for how you would like to see your new year come to fruition. However, sometimes we simply may not know what it is that we want. Sometimes we feel confused, lost, uninspired, and have a sense of feeling that there aren’t many options.

What is the wheel of life? 

I do believe that using the wheel of life  – a powerful coaching tool – can help you gain clarity so you can make more optimal decisions moving forward. 

The wheel of life is a useful visual aid to help you access your level of satisfaction in your life. It helps you to get an understanding of the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

It’s important to be reflective and gain more self-awareness. 

The wheel of life consists of, 8 categories that make up a fulfilled life. Of course, you can change these categories depending on what is most important to you. But for clarity and ease, the 8 categories listed below are the most used in coaching. 

Doing this self-reflection exercise helps you see where you are most satisfied and where you may want to focus your attention on to improve your quality of life.

I love this activity because it gets you to really thinking about what would make a satisfying life in each of these areas.

In fact, I love this exercise so much that, last year I did a guest appearance on the CoachMe Vancouver Podcast. It was all about setting yourself up with the Wheel of Life and how to set goals from there.  

Check it out and have a listen PLUS download a copy of your personal wheel of life that you can find in the podcast show notes here.

  • Health
  • Friends & Family
  • Significant Other
  • Personal Growth
  • Fun & Leisure
  • Home Environment
  • Career
  • Money

Once you have your copy of the Wheel of Life, (and maybe even had a listen to my podcast episode), come back here for the analysis and next steps.

Coaching Question: What are your top 8 priorities that make up your life? 

The wheel of life is going to highlight your top priorities and the areas in your life that require more attention to foster a deep sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. It also helps to lay the groundwork for goal setting as it encourages you to analyze your current reality while also visualizing your desired reality.

Once you complete your own wheel of life  some other useful coaching questions you can ask yourself are:  

-How did you arrive at that number? 

-What might be missing in your life? 

-What are some ways that you can add more value to your life in this particular area?

The goal behind using the Wheel of Life is to figure out how we can potentially lead you to a state of equilibrium where you experience a high level of satisfaction and fulfillment in the areas that are most important to you.

Coaching Question: what’s the value you place on personal growth?

I believe we are all put on this earth for a reason. Deep down, whether we talk about it or not, we want to be our greatest potential. In order to understand what that actually means takes dedication, consistency, courage, and patience. It’s exciting to know you have a purpose and you being here to help yourself and others is an amazing gift that we want to share. 

Coaching Question: What role do you play in each priority in your life? What’s important to you about these roles? 

So, now you have done the wheel of life exercise and may be wondering: ‘Ok, so I’m at a 5 in this area of my life. How do I get it to feel like I’m an 8 out of 10 in terms of feeling satisfied?”

I believe the fastest way to bridge the gap of where you are and where you want to go are two things. 

  1. It’s empowering to change the way you speak about the things that are stopping you. Try talking from a place where you are the one in charge, not the situation or someone else. You always have a choice on how you react,  for example, transforming your body. It gives you the steering wheel and you get to say yes or no to whatever it is that is in front of you that will either help or hinder your results. 
  2. Another powerful tool to bridge the gap is the power of gratitude. We’ll be happier, the more we can sit back and reflect on what we have done thus far to get us to a fulfilled life, and also appreciate everything has helped us along our journey

It’s a snowball effect that continues to grow. But this needs to be practiced and done intentionally in order to reap the benefits of feeling grateful. 

Coaching Questions to ask yourself to bridge the gap: 

  • Who is someone you are grateful for this year? 
  • What difficult experience are you grateful for? 
  • What actions could you take to express your gratitude? 

 

Let me know-how using the wheel of life has helped you increase your level of satisfaction in your life. Always feel free to drop me a line with what has worked for you or if you want to just chat!

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